Can you really find love by using dating apps? Well, of course, the answer is yes, it is possible. But, will it be easy? Hmm, it’s kind of controversial. Those who believe in the power of dating apps are the ones who have found love through them. But, from my own experience, I have to admit, it’s not that easy!
We live in a new world, a new generation, where social media and dating apps were the norm and part of our daily lives. I have watched some videos regarding this, and apparently compared to the previous generation, there are more single people today (which a single girl like me would love to hear!), but then they choose to remain single. While this may be a personal choice, in my opinion, dating apps don’t help much in that matter either, if not, they may actually contribute to this. Here’s why:
One of the reasons is that most of us use the apps in a way that prevents us from fully investing in a single person. Why? Because we chat with different people at the same time, and that’s just the so-called “chatting part”. In my opinion, it’s like reading different books with different genres at the same time. So, how will you fully understand those books you are reading simultaneously? Similarly, how will you genuinely get to know a person if you are chatting with others too? True, there is an advantage to that, especially at this early stage, as this will avoid getting too attached easily but it also stops you from forming a deeper type of connection, or at least a chance for it.
Adding up to it, in the back of our minds (mostly) we often believe that there will always be someone else to meet, which makes it easier to dismiss a person or end a conversation abruptly. Most of us, think of it as “we’ll meet this person again, if not better.” Instead of the mindset “I’ll never meet this person again, he/she is one of a kind.” So, what do most of us do? We swipe for more, instead of trying to get to know this person that we found interesting.
Then comes the next stage “dating or meeting” part. As I remembered, before it was almost automatic that you date one person, but nowadays, unless there’s no exclusive dating agreement, we date multiple people at the same time too. Even the memes recently mention that line “to hope that you are the favorite one, coz you won’t be the only one.” Isn’t that funny?
I am guilty of all these things, I am not going to lie, it was fun and exciting as well. It certainly boosts my confidence. But, as I noticed, it also prevents me to put in enough time and effort to have that meaningful connection I crave for. It’s a bit crazy, isn’t it?
And so, even though there are more single people out there, I believe it becomes harder to connect with someone on a deeper level since most of us are afraid of being vulnerable, plus the idea that there are more options makes it even more challenging to focus on just one person.
So, what’s the real deal here? Dating apps do help in meeting different types of people from various walks of life, however, it ultimately depends on us on how will that fact influence our choice when it comes to investing time, energy, and building a genuine relationship and connection.
Safe to say, dating apps do have the potential to help us find love, but it also presents challenges. It’s still very important that we stay true to our intention and of course, that number one rule to be honest and be true to ourselves, especially as to what kind of relationship and connection we truly desire.
Telling Tales, Irin 